I’ve been supervised by both male and female supervisors. I’ve supervised both male and female colleagues. The success or failure of those experiences has had less to do with gender than with personalities. But what is your experience?
The Atlantic Magazine – my very favorite periodical – seems to be on a Women-At-Work kick that is not necessarily helping The Cause – if the cause = thriving on the job regardless of gender. In the past 16 months, they’ve featured:
- Why Women Bully Each Other at Work (September 2017)
- Why Women Get Criticized for Being Candid at Work (August 4, 2017)
- Why Is Silicon Valley So Awful to Women? (April 2017)
- Why Women (Sometimes) Don’t Help Other Women (June 23, 2016)
So what’s your experience, my friends who identify as female? Do you feel bullied? Criticized? Awful? Unhelped?
Remember when Madeleine Albright said, “There’s a special place in hell for women who don’t help each other.” That didn’t go very well, did it?
Frankly, there are some women who are difficult to work with and there are some men who are difficult to work with and there are non-binary people who are difficult to work with – but it’s not about gender or identity.
It’s about personality. It’s about collegiality and expecting the best of each other. It’s about giving each other a break. It’s about sharing the credit and taking the blame. It’s about letting each other fail without shame. It’s about sharing a common mission. It’s about trust.
(Red Flag: If your colleague’s mission is to promote herself/himself/themselves over the organization, look out.)
Women: do you find it more or less difficult to work with other women?
Men: do you prefer to work with one gender over another?
What’s the key to excellent collegial work lives? Apparently The Atlantic is curious about this and so am I. Or maybe they are just trying to sell magazines.
Image from The Young Clergywomen’s Project and specifically from a post by Sarah Weisiger.