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I hope everyone reading this post has the most wonderful holiday season possible, filled with peace and goodwill toward everyone, and hope for the future of the world.

The reality is that this holiday time comes with anxiety and maybe even bit of dread. Some of us will not be home for Christmas. Too many of us have no literal home. And sadly “home” is not comforting and peaceful for everyone.

I encourage you to read this conversation in The New York Times with Thomas Friedman and David Brooks. It sparks some profound ideas explaining why our nation – and the world – are so deeply divided. According to Friedman, human beings are driven first and foremost by 1) finding dignity and avoiding humiliation and 2) home. Home involves being “anchored in a community where people are connected, protected and respected.” (Quote from Andy Karsner)

Amen.

Some of what divides us is related to “home” and it involves the search for human dignity. What does it feel like to be “home”? What definitely doesn’t feel like “home”? The answers to these questions explain why we are divided as a nation.

I grew up in a university town in North Carolina where most adults had a college education, belonged to a Protestant church, and the secondary schools were segregated and not equal until I was in the third grade. A Black college professor – Howard Lee – was elected mayor when I was thirteen. 95% of my high school graduating class went to college.

My children grew up less then ten miles from The White House where most adults had a college education. Our neighbors might belong to a Protestant congregation, but they were just as likely to be Roman Catholic, Jewish, Muslim, or non-affiliated. They were from all over the world. Our local public schools relished in the fact that over 100 languages were spoken. They took field trips to talk with astronauts. U.S. Presidents spoke at their assemblies.

I currently serve a Presbytery comprised of 92 congregations in seven demographically diverse counties in North Carolina. In one of the rural counties, 24% of the population lives below the poverty level while two other counties are among the wealthiest in North Carolina. In Mecklenburg County, one out of every 464 residents is a millionaire.

Consider what feels like home and what doesn’t feel like home to this array of humans.

According to Thomas Friedman, it’s our experiences of “race, pace and price” that divide us. For example:

RACE

• “I can’t feel at home where the mayor is a Somalian refugee.” 
• “I’m so proud of our city for electing a Somalian refugee as our mayor.”

PACE

• “I don’t want to learn AI. What’s wrong with using a library?”
• “It’s an exciting new future that we won’t perceive anything like we do now.”

PRICE

• “Why can’t Millennials grow up?”
• “We don’t think we’ll ever be able to afford a home of our own.”

Who gets to feel at home in this rapidly changing world? And are we willing to offer respect and dignity to people who grew up differently than we did or people who see the world differently than we do?

Friedman also offers this:

Along comes a guy — a political genius in his own way — named Donald Trump who says: “I have a metaphor that can cut across all three of these lines, and it’s called a wall. I’m going to build a wall against those people who don’t make you feel at home in your own home; I’m going to build a wall against the pace of change of those things that make you not feel at home in your own fold; and I’m going to bring down the walls to home ownership.” It’s no wonder so many people voted for him. And yet even more people didn’t vote for him.

What will it take for us – as a country – to feel like home together? (Again, please read the article.) I believe that we in The Church have a powerful opportunity to teach the world how to love each other and treat each other as God’s children, even when we are different. More “both/and” and less “either/or.”

The prophet Isaiah has a word for us about this too:

The wolf shall live with the lamb; the leopard shall lie down with the kid;
the calf and the lion will feed together and a little child shall lead them.
 The cow and the bear shall graze; their young shall lie down together;
    and the lion shall eat straw like the ox.
The nursing child shall play over the hole of the asp, and the weaned child shall put its hand on the adder’s den. They will not hurt or destroy on all my holy mountain,
for the earth will be full of the knowledge of the Lord as the waters cover the sea. Isaiah 11:6-9

Merry Christmas!

Higgins (who is British): Sam, so back home, what does Christmas make you think of?

Sam Obisanya (who is Nigerian): “Colonization.”

Season 2, Episode 4 of Ted Lasso “Carol of the Bells”

I made a thoughtless and culturally insensitive statement yesterday. Actually I thought I was being so culturally respectful. But I was wrong and I’ve apologized.

What is “woke” to some (assuming “wokeness” is bad) is “culturally aware” to others (assuming “cultural awareness” is good) and it divides us. Nevertheless, unless we never leave our hometown or meet someone of a different nationality or religion, it’s a natural part of our education. If we are very fortunate, God will bring people into our lives who think differently from us.

And so – for the love of God – we need to know that:

• Serving pork to a person who is Jewish or Muslim is most likely offensive.
• A woman showing up at an Orthodox Christian baptism without covering her head is most likely offensive.
• Devout Sikh men are required to wear a turban. Most Muslims do not wear turbans. (This was life-or-death knowledge after 9-11-01.) Also, no one should ever be killed – of any faith – for wearing a turban.

Many (most?) people in the Western world think of Santa/Saint Nick/Kriss Kringle when they think of Christmas. In the United States, people of other faiths hang stockings and decorate a tree. Christmas is a cultural celebration – even for many Christians – having less to do with God than twinkling lights and presents.

(Note: this post is not another criticism of saying “Happy Holidays” instead of “Merry Christmas.” You do you.)

My point is that we in the West have no idea how many assumptions we make about Christmas in order to claim it only for people like us. We used the hymn “People, Look East” for our staff devotional this morning and it’s one of my favorites. But HH reminded me later that – if you happen to live in India or China or Australia – you would “look west” for the coming of Jesus in Bethlehem. This is true.

The Three Kings of the Christmas carol ostensibly came from the east: perhaps Persian, Arabia, and Babylonia. That would be Iran, Saudi Arabia, Yemen, Oman, UAE, Qatar, Bahrain, Kuwait, and Iraq today – all east of Bethlehem. That makes sense when looking at a map.

But looking at the whole world and the whole of life strengthens our empathy muscles. As the saying goes:

“Everyone has two eyes, but no one has the same view,.

Empathy is a Biblical expression of love – no matter who says otherwise. My AI friend put it this way:

The main Greek words for compassion are σπλαγχνίζομαι (splagchnizomai), meaning a deep, gut-wrenching empathy leading to action, and οἰκτιρμός (oiktirmos)/ ἔλεος (eleos), referring to mercy, pity, or tender compassion. While splagchnizomai emphasizes visceral, active concern, oiktirmos/eleos highlights mercy and pity, with both reflecting a divine or human capacity for deep feeling for others’ suffering. 

It shows up in Matthew 9:36, Mark 1:41, and Luke 15:20. It was God who showed empathy in each of these stories.

We Church People are better at feeling mercy for others than showing active concern for the world. If we know anything about what’s happening in the United States right now, we know that there are brown and black people afraid of being taken from their families without due process. Most of those taken in the past weeks actually have citizenship or documentation. And even if they don’t, they deserve human respect. We might feel bad for them, but are our feelings leading to action?

Where people are illegally colonizing parts of Gaza and the West Bank, perhaps we feel a sense of injustice for the people who are being removed from their own land, but do we offer more than feelings?

I can hear you thinking, “Way to bum us out at Christmas, Jan.” And that’s not my intention. We can still find joy in all the lights and gifts and music of the season. And we can love God by loving those for whom Christmas means terror and grief. What if we answered the question: What Does Christmas Make You Think Of? by saying,

“I think of all the opportunities to actively love as God loves us.“

This includes making people feel comfortable in our families and in other families. It means sharing unexpected – and maybe undeserved – gifts. It includes bringing peace to those who are experiencing no peace.

It means building relationships with people who think differently from us. If you are able, please watch or rewatch the Carol of the Bells episode of Ted Lasso. The Higgins Family may or may not be Christian, but they spent one beautiful Christmas exemplifying the love of God to people who had gathered from North, South, East, and West.

I read church reports, mission studies and clergy profiles for a living. Lots of them sound like those stereotypical Christmas letters that share all the achievements of the year but fail to mention issues of financial stress, addiction, and family trauma. Sometimes I read a congregation’s description of themselves hoping to call the imaginary “pastor with young children who will help us grow the church.” But there’s no mention of the fact that they had to lay off the Associate Pastor due to financial issues or that several in the congregation are still reeling from the Pastor Emeritus running off with a liturgical dancer.

Some pastors probably want a tidy church with no conflict, expecting that those exist. Other pastors love a challenge (if it will not involve abuse or martyrdom.) A great pastor enters their ministry with a vision that aligns with the vision of God’s people and the knowledge that failure is can be a great learning experience. (Maybe we can discontinue that thing we’ve been doing for years because 1) it has no positive impact on the community and 2) everyone hates doing it.)

Every once in a while, I read a report or a profile that speaks the truth:

• “I served for years as a generalist Associate Pastor and realized that my true calling is to specialize in adult faith formation. I’m not a great preacher. I don’t love youth work. But watching adults of every age experience that spark of inspiration that changes their lives brings me deep joy.”
• “Our congregation spent many years in denial that our neighborhood had changed. We wondered why we were not growing. We wondered what we were missing. Even though we are a white congregation of lifelong Presbyterians, we realized that our campus is in the middle of an international neighborhood with people who care more about feeding their families than reading The Institutes. (We still love John Calvin, but we didn’t love our neighbors as God is calling us to love them.”)
• “Our congregation split ten years ago over ministry to LGBTQ neighbors and it broke our hearts. And yet, because God uses even brokenness, we have arisen to become a congregation sure of our responsibilities to love and serve even those whom we don’t understand. God did this. A great example involves a Bible Study Group of conservative retired men who decided to volunteer to serve dinner at a local Pride Cafe to get to know some of the youth who eat dinner there on Friday nights. Instead of judging those who gathered, they prayerfully entered that space wanting God to help them understand. The men were changed in that they saw these young people through the eyes of Jesus. And the young people were changed in that they had mentors who increasingly heard them. Don’t misunderstand: this took five years and lots of missteps. But God has made us more curious than judgemental, just like in Ted Lasso.”

I would rather serve a congregation – or call a pastor – who is aware of the hot-messiness of life than one who says, “Everything is fine” when asked about staff conflicts when everyone’s threatening to quit. One of the most destructive truths I see today is when a Pastoral Nominating Committee and/or a Pastoral Candidate are not truthful about their reality.

• Churches that overstate their commitment to reaching out to neighbors.
• Pastors who don’t love youth work while applying for a youth position because they want to relocate for family.
• Congregations that declare they want to grow, but have zero intention of doing what it would take “to grow.”
• Pastors who lie about why they left their last position and are about to repeat that lie in a new position.
• Churches that minimize their doubts about a pastoral candidate because they’ve been searching for so long and everyone is tired. (“Who cares if he sounds kind of racist?)

We perpetuate all kinds of issues when we are all happy clappy and fear revealing or facing the truth. The God’s-Honest-Truth is that when we insist on creating a false impression about who we are, we pay for it.

Don’t forget that God is holy and amazing.

When we admit that things are not perfect but God is perfect, then we can begin to become the people we have been created to be. And life is way more fun when we have the confidence to say, “I would love to do ministry with people who know what it’s like to be imperfect.”

HOLIDAY: from the Old English word “hāligdæg, meaning “holy day” originally referring exclusively to religious festivals, but later expanded to include any day of rest, celebration, or exemption from work.

I love that British people go “on holiday” because it’s a little reminder that stepping away from the ordinary has spiritual overtones. It’s possible to see every day as a Holy Day if we focus on things like gratitude and the meaning of life.

Or life can be like this:

The opening national news story last night as HH and I were settling in with our turkey sandwiches was about “The Black Friday Holiday.” (Yes, a National Guard soldier had died in DC but that story came second to projected shopping stats.)

And when did Black Friday officially become a holiday?

If we’re honest, almost all our holidays (at least in the United States) have become about money from Martin Luther King Day (mattress sales) to Valentine’s Day (flowers and cards) to Labor Day (household appliances.) It wouldn’t surprise me if more U.S. high schoolers could identify a Toyotathon before they could identify the town where Jesus was born.

Our American culture is all about money. It feels like money is everything.

Wealthy Christians (including this one) find more security in financial success than in Jesus if we are honest with ourselves. Yes, we depend on Jesus as our Lord and Savior but Jesus wants us to buy a nice home with good schools and build wealth for our children. I’m embarrassed to know hundreds of Christians who believe that they have money because they are “good.”

People striving to “make it” in America are taught that conspicuous consumption is the path to success. I officiated a wedding in 2025 between a young couple from Asia who had been taught via social media that a bride needed three wedding dresses for a true American Wedding – one for greeting guests, one for walking down the aisle, and one for the reception. They included a line about promising to get out of debt in their wedding vows.

It would be boring to write all the examples of how and why the love of money has broken our country. It feels almost impossible to overcome systemic poverty or convince the 1% to share.

My concern is for our souls. What happens to a culture when money becomes the holiest thing? I think we might be seeing those consequences today.

There has always been inequity in this country. There has always been greed. And yet it seems more and more acceptable to treat people cruelly if we can convince ourselves that they are not like us. We applaud when vulnerable people are harassed if we consider them criminals.

Few of us would admit that money (and the stuff we purchase with money) are the holiest things in our lives. But this is the season when we might ponder what are the holiest things in our lives. Advent begins this Sunday and we can choose to take a moment or a chunk of moments to ask ourselves:

What’s the holiest thing in my life? What do I worship? What do I make sacrifices for? What do I treasure? If we decide that – actually – it’s not a new Lexus or even matching pajamas – I promise that Advent will be more life-giving than soul-crushing.

Anyone who has read this blog for a while knows that I think about death a lot. I have my reasons.

Necessary Losses is still an important book for parents, pastors and retirees, and I plan to read it again in the coming months. I’ve written quite a bit about retirement and I am privileged to experience it myself in the next few months. I feel strongly about retirement.

• Most of our youngest pastors will not retire after 40 years in professional ministry. Thank you Cliff Lyda.
• Some pastors have, unfortunately, retired in place. Thank you Mary Marcotte.
• Nobody taught us in seminary about abandonment issues.

I remember the last time I served communion to MVW. She was an elder who had just served the congregation The Lord’s Supper and – as was our custom at that church – the 8 elders and deacons who had served the congregation sat on the front pew and I then served them by name. I remember saying to her, “This is the bread of life, broken for you M. This is the cup of salvation, poured out for you, M.” She was dying of cancer. I knew it was the last time I would serve her communion in that sanctuary.

Terrible and beautiful.

I remember saying goodbye to a beloved elder in the hospital knowing she’d be gone by morning. How do you keep saying goodbye to people you love over and over and over again? The quick answer is that you cry and then you trust you will see them again.

Last Christmas Eve, HH and I sat side by side in church pews for the first time in over 40 years. He was retiring and I had no church responsibilities. It was heavenly. As bells rang and liturgists participated in a perfectly arranged reading of the lessons, we both sat there in our fancy-ish clothes with other people in fancy-ish clothes absorbing only inspiration and beauty. We didn’t have to check with the ushers. We didn’t have to jerry rig a sagging microphone. We just sat there relishing in the beauty.

(I remember a woman in her fancy-ish clothes many Christmas Eves ago who asked me on her way out of the 11 pm service what I was wearing under my robe. What she meant was that she was wearing a glittery cocktail dress for the occasion and was I also wearing a special outfit? I laughed out loud because I was maybe wearing a t-shirt and pants that were too big. Did she not realize that Christmas Eve for the pastor didn’t involve parties and our children would maybe get a PB&J for dinner at midnight?)

Again, sitting in a pew on Christmas Eve was heavenly. I will most likely get to do that again this December 24th.

I am also bracing myself/hoping to relish my last sermon, the last time I serve The Lord’s Supper, my last General Presbyter Report, my last committee meeting. I am frankly quite excited. And also these are necessary Last Things.

As we enter “The Holiday Season” this week, it will be the last time some families will enjoy Thanksgiving with a sick parent. It will be the last time in the family home before it’s sold next year. It will be the last Christmas morning before the divorce is settled.

And it will be a time of firsts: the first Thanksgiving with a new baby, the first Christmas with a new partner. The first Christmas you get to sing Silent Night in a pew with your pastor spouse.

Several of my colleagues have lost spouses in recent weeks and months. Kids have lost parents. Parents have lost employment. My hope is that we can deeply appreciate the joys and sorrows of first and last times. Most of the time, we won’t even realize that “this will be the last time.” But that’s a blessing too. It’s why we have community: to be with us in those terrible and beautiful times.

I wonder if anyone reading this has ever:

• Driven faster than the speed limit?
• Jaywalked?
• Cheated on their taxes?
• Urinated (of course it was an emergency) in public?
• Driven while under the influence of alcohol?
• Driven without a license?
• Driven a car with an expired registration?
• Littered?
• Driven without their seatbelt hooked?
• Pirated a TV streaming service?

Imagine, for a moment, that while committing any of these crimes you are pulled out of your car or your home by masked men armed with government issued weapons who push you facedown to the ground, possibly in front of your family, co-workers, or friends. You might try to explain that you have papers in your wallet. You might tell the men that your boss has copies of their visas if they’d just go inside and talk with the boss. They take your phone and place you in a van to drive you to an undisclosed location where you are not allowed to contact your family or an attorney.

Yes, you are guilty. But doesn’t this seem extreme?

The comments we can expect when people put stories on social media about ICE arrests are about what criminals deserve. A few of my favorites over the weekend:

If they tell you to roll your window down and you do it, they will not break it.

Let’s roll ICE!!!

I voted for lots and lots of this.

The paid protestors strike again!

Over the weekend, Willy Aceituno, a naturalized U.S. citizen from Honduras, was stopped twice in Charlotte by ICE within minutes. (See photo above.)

The first time, he was quickly released. The second time, he was asked to roll down his window which he refused and so officers broke the window in his truck and pulled him out of the car, pushed him to the ground (while he was saying “I’m a citizen.”) And then they escorted him to their van. Fortunately they realized he was telling the truth before taking him into detention.

Yes, he resisted arrest. Yes, he speaks Spanish (and not much English.)

But imagine for a moment that this happened to one of us who happens to be White, who doesn’t suffer fools gladly, who is late to work. It feels like harassment (being pulled over more than once within minutes.) It feels threatening (having someone break a window). It feels incendiary. (Why not listen to him? Why not let him show his documentation?)

The punishment doesn’t fit the crime. Yes, if you are a violent criminal, it makes sense to use harsher tactics perhaps. But it’s evil to treat every person who was defending their property or overstaying their visa or committing a victimless crime as if they are Jeffrey Epstein or El Chapo.

And here’s the part when Jesus enters the conversation: Jesus granted grace to the woman at the well even though she was apparently guilty of unseemly “situationships.” (Listen to Dr. Alice Ridgill’s sermon preached today in Charlotte about Jesus and the woman.) Jesus included Judas at The Last Supper even though he knew Judas would betray him. Jesus befriended tax collectors, lepers, and other women whom righteous people rejected.

One of the essential tenets of my Reformed Christian faith is about grace. I believe that God loves us and forgives us especially when we don’t deserve it. This doesn’t mean that we break civil or religious laws with reckless abandon. It means that even when we make mistakes, even when we make bad choices God is gracious. Exhibit A:

But God proves his love for us in that while we still were sinners Christ died for us. Romans 5:8

Can governments run themselves with such lavish grace? No. Governments do not have the same authority or holy perfection as the Creator of the world. But we can do better. We can show mercy after holding people accountable.

And in the Church we try to hold people accountable, not to punish them unmercifully but to restore them to wholeness. We try to discipline each other with an eye on resurrection.

Cruelty reigns in the world today and ICE is not the only offender by any means. But honestly the only Reign that can heal us is the Reign of God. God is perhaps the only One who doesn’t punish us according to our cosmic crimes.

Image of the scene where U.S. citizen Willy Aceituno was held by ICE after an officer broke his truck window.

Because I’m less than 2 weeks post-surgery and not getting out much, I continue to wonder – sitting in my rental recliner – how I will deal with retirement (122 days) after 40+ years of seeing much of life through an ecclesiastical lens.

I’ve heard of pastors who continue to write sermons every week post-retirement. That will not be me. I am more likely to look at a dog walker with four unruly puppies and think “Church.”

So, regarding last Tuesday’s election: All the political analysis is wearisome, especially when pundits claim that “lessons learned” involve doing what successful candidates did. No.

Mamdani won because he captured what most voters in NYC need from their city government. Spanberger won because she seemed to address what most Virginians decided they needed (or didn’t need.) Same with Sherrill in New Jersey. There might be a thread that connects them, but Mamdani would probably not be elected in The Commonwealth, nor would Spanberger be elected as NYC’s mayor. Context is everything.

This is also why – when a church tells me they want to open a preschool because the church down the street opened a preschool and they seem to be growing – we will fail at “Mission.” What’s needed in our multi-cultural suburb is not the same as what’s needed in our rural small town. And the only way to know what our communities truly need (which is what it means to love our neighbor) is by having a relationship with them. It’s not about getting new members. It’s not about “growing.” It’s about Luke 7:22.

‘Go and tell John what you have seen and heard: the blind receive their sight, the lame walk, the lepers are cleansed, the deaf hear, the dead are raised, the poor have good news brought to them.’

Blindness, lameness, leprosy, deafness, lifelessness and poverty look different in different contexts. They are manifested in everything from domestic violence to unemployment to teenage mental health issues to hunger. Sometimes the blindness involves the fact that Church People don’t even realize that their neighbors are dealing with desperation. Even the prettiest neighborhood includes people who need life to be different.

I wonder why people join the church they joined. For many it’s family heritage. For others it’s connecting with the cool kids. A friend told me recently that she’s worshipping with a church because of the door greeter who was a hot mess – hair disheveled, clothes not matching the weather, clearly dealing with some thing in her life. The greeter had been included in a leadership role while in most congregations she’d be considered an embarrassment. “That’s my kind of church,” my friend said. And that is also Jesus’ kind of church. And also that’s not everybody’s context. Not everyone has homeless neighbors.

Do we even know our context? Do we want to know it? Or are we trying to follow some kind of ministry formula that works for another congregation?

These are things I ponder while hanging out in my rental recliner. I was expecting a more dramatic launch feature but it turns out to be a gentle push. Again, this reminds me of Church.

I had the usual pudgy knees as a toddler but they supported my twig-like legs as a teenager. I had my first knee surgery at 19 – the first time I spent the night in a hospital since the day I was born. And although I was an adult, my parents spent the night with me so that I’d wake up to see friendly faces. Mom had fainted upon seeing me return from recovery and when Dad yelled into the hall, “She’s fainted!” three people ran into my room to tend to me. But I had to tell them it wasn’t me. My Mom was on the floor on the other side of the bed having collapsed at the sight of my bandages.

(This is why Mom never agreed to reconstructive surgery after her mastectomy. She couldn’t even look at the bandages much less what was under the bandages.)

My friend SPS suggested that I spend time walking a labyrinth before I exchange the knees God gave me with whatever human-made knees Dr. M gives me this Wednesday. And I followed her suggested over the weekend. These are the rituals that give life meaning.

I thanked God for the knees that supported me when I took my first steps and the knees that were scraped after that big bike wreck into The Leadbetter’s front yard. I thanked God for the knees that stood firm during cheerleading and gymnastics – until they didn’t. (I blame the fact that Title IX wasn’t the law until I was almost out of high school. We had not had the opportunities – at least where I lived – to strengthen our ligaments and muscles to train for competitive sports until we were practically grown women.) A quick flip off somebody’s shoulders was all it took to wreck my knee thus starting a series of surgeries on both knees over the next 50 years.

The history of orthopedic knee surgery is displayed on both my legs: the big cut from pre-arthroscopic days. Lots of smaller scars to repair tears. A slightly bigger cut to replace my ACL in 2007. I’m hoping this week’s surgery will be the last on these wonderful knees.

These are the knees I bent to the floor on the day of my ordination. These are the knees that allowed me to climb into a pulpit and stand there.

These are the knees that helped me stand beside HH as we exchanged our wedding vows. These are the knees that felt weak at my parents’ gravesides. These are the knees that made it possible for me to walk with our children to the bus stop, to museums, to parks.

These are the knees that have served me well (or pretty well) for almost 70 years and – because it’s amazing what the Lord has let us learn – these are the knees that will be replaced on Wednesday. So grateful.

Strengthen the weak hands and make firm the feeble knees. Say to those who are of a fearful heart, “Be strong, do not fear!” Isaiah 35:3-4

As we age, many of us have to say goodbye to the body parts God gave us. It’s a big deal. It deserves a ritual.

And so: listen to my genius friend SPS and take a moment before saying good-bye.

Last Friday I went to the NC State Fair for about the 50th time in my life. It was tricky going when we lived in Chicago, and occasional years we were kept away because of COVID or other illness. But we love the State Fair and on the First Friday of Fair Week every October, the cousins meet at the Edmiston Dairy bottles in the Antique Farm Machinery Building at about 9:15 am. We spend the day eating ham biscuits and Peachey’s Donuts while strolling through buildings full of chickens and cows and pumpkins and peppers. We tracked down CEE’s blue ribbon for a crocheted doll dress in the craft building. We stood in line for the cake decorating display.

The NC State Fair is one of the few places in North Carolina where all kinds of people are exposed to all kinds of people that most of us would not be exposed any other day of the year. There are farm boys and girl scouts. Families of every size, shape, and color. Moms in hijabs and Moms in culottes. Dads in golf shirts and Dads in overalls. We saw prep schools kids in matching uniforms and kids in wheelchairs with caregivers. It’s beautiful. Rural Folks, City Folks, Suburban Folks all together chomping on fried Oreos and waving from the State Fair Flyer.

I am an NPR-listening, New York Times-reading American so you can probably guess where I stand on certain matters. But – while consuming my NYT over the weekend, I read: This HBO Mini-Series Gets Rural America Right. I hope you’ll read it/listen to it. (And I hope my attempt to gift the article works.)

The creator of the mini-series Task is Brad Inglesby and the Times article says that his “shows inhabit a world that his audience lives in or, if they don’t, are not otherwise inclined to contemplate.” Friends, we need more of this. We need to contemplate and consider people that we ordinarily do not contemplate or consider. This is why we have literature. And it’s why we have State Fairs.

For every show like “Yellowstone” set in Montana, there are numerous shows like “Only Murders in the Building” or “The Rookie” set in NYC or LA. But this paragraph about the need for more television about people in the middle of the country captures why our nation is so divided these days:

A memorable “Yellowstone” episode saw John Dutton, played by Kevin Costner, leading a celebratory day of branding cattle in some of the prettiest country Montana has to offer. At one point, he asked an environmental activist he was trying to seduce what she thought of the event. “I thought parts of it were beautiful and I thought parts of it were absolutely heartbreaking,” she told him. “Yeah, then you and I saw it the same,” he replied, before she clarified, “I’m guessing we agree on the beautiful parts, but our heartbreaks are different.”

Some of our hearts break when water is polluted by farming.

Some of our hearts break when our farmers face so much regulation that they go out of business.

Some of our hearts break when brown and black immigrants are arrested by masked ICE agents (especially when they are legal.)

Some of our hearts break when a factory closing taking hundreds of jobs from the county.

Some of our hearts break when queer kids are in danger.

Some of our hearts break when conservative Christians are demonized.

Some of our hearts break when we didn’t get the promotion because we are not White or male.

Some of our hearts break when we didn’t get the promotion because we are White or male.

Brian Stevenson famously says that proximity is everything in terms of understanding each other. We feel for those who are in our families or our neighborhoods or our churches. We judge those who are unfamiliar.

If you have the opportunity to spend a day at your state fair in 2026 (most of them have already happened in 2025), I hope you will do it. And when you go, relish in the unfamiliar foods, the unfamiliar scenes and the unfamiliar people.

Final story: While waiting for my Lyft on the afternoon of the State Fair (I was leaving a little early because my knees were screaming*), I was talking with a N. C. State Trooper who shared his MAGA credentials while I nodded and smiled. Suddenly two little brown boys ran up to him and asked if they could all pose for a photo. He was delighted. He gave them State Trooper stickers while their parents walked up, Dad in a turban and Mom pushing two little girls in the stroller. I offered to take a photo of the whole family with the Trooper and I’d like to think that an angel got her wings that afternoon because – as everybody knows – an angel gets her wings when a Reign of God Moment happens.

*I’m having both knees replaced on October 29th and – if there is room on your prayer list – please send one for healing mercies. Thanks.

Philippe Aghion and Peter Howitt, along with Joel Mokyr were awarded the 2025 Nobel Prize in Economics today. Drs. Aghion and Howitt, according to the NY Times announcement, were awarded for their work on “the theory of sustained growth through creative destruction.”

“They built a mathematical model for growth, with creative destruction as a core element.”

I have no idea what this means in the context of economics, but I do know something about creative destruction. Yes, it is a core element of ministry if the Church hopes to grow.

A colleague and friend often describes his congregation as a healthy dinosaur. Changes – big ones that will involve some level of destruction – are in their future, but for now, there is plenty of money and human participation is impressive. They are flourishing. Nevertheless their leaders are aware that sustained growth will only happen with creative destruction.

Unfortunately, some of our congregations are dead dinosaurs. They have been destroyed by cataclysmic shifts in the world which triggered an increase in secularism and a dearth of spiritual nourishment. There are literally hundreds of books on the causes of this cataclysm:

• Once Constantine became a Christian and it was a good idea to practice the same faith as the Emperor, people identified as Christians for the sake of cultural inclusion instead of counter cultural ways of living in the name of Jesus.
• We taught our children to be good church members but we didn’t teach them to be disciples of Jesus.
• We focussed on the ABCs of ministry (attendance, building, and cash) instead of the NOPs of ministry (neighbors, organizational structure, and partnerships.)

I could go on and on. The bottom line is that it will be impossible for the Church of Jesus Christ to thrive unless we are open to new ideas and willing to make changes. This is true for our economy. This is true for our institutions, including The Church.

I love spending time with both healthy dinosaurs and newly discovered species in Church World. I do not love spending time with dead dinosaurs even though they mean well. But nothing can keep them alive without a willingness to creatively destroy what no longer serves God or feeds God’s people.

Maybe our churches need to tear out the old kitchen and add an institutional kitchen that can feed the neighbors. Or maybe we need to tear down the whole building altogether and resurrect something utterly different. This kind of destruction hurts only if we do not trust God and a vision of wholeness and healing for these days. Before the landscape is covered with dead dinosaurs, how about we pray that God introduces us to new forms of life?