Although most of the lyrics to Raise Your Glass by Pink are not church-appropriate, I always think of Jesus when I hear this refrain:
So raise your glass if you are wrong,
In all the right ways,
All my underdogs,
We will never be never be, anything but loud
And nitty gritty, dirty little freaks
Won’t you come on and come on and raise your glass,
Just come on and come on and raise your glass
I imagine Jesus sitting at table with the disciples on the Thursday before his death singing those words. The disciples were culturally powerless people following someone who told them to turn the other cheek, love their enemies, consider themselves blessed in difficult times. He made “weak” the new strong. He would soon make women the first evangelists.
There they were at table:
- Wrong in all the right ways.
And if we don’t consider ourselves any of these things, I wonder why we are following Jesus in the first place. He told offensive parables about Samaritans and prodigals. He did offensive things like talk to women in public places and touch lepers. He was literally an enemy of the State.
Following Jesus is an act of defiance against all that is “correct” and “exclusive.” Especially during these times when many of our practices and procedures are being tossed out the window, we have the opportunity to see what’s most important.
Relationships are more important than regulations. Communion with Christ is more important than the type of crackers we are eating. Proceeding with the work of the Church is more important than gathering for meetings.
Let us raise our glasses tonight and try to be more like Jesus – who was not the Savior the world expected. At all.
Today I’d like us to remember those who are expecting babies in the midst of a global pandemic. It’s scary enough being pregnant. Pregnant bodies ache and swell in unfamiliar ways. Pregnant bodies experience moments of utter exhaustion and other moments of superhuman strength. Pregnant people are expecting new life, imagining new life, preparing for new life but don’t know what that new life will be like. We do know that – once that new life arrives – our own lives will never be the same. But expecting a child in the throes of social distancing and toilet paper hoarding ratchets up the anxiety levels substantially.
But this post is not about pregnant people.
This is a post about the Church that will be born after this pandemic. My very wise friend and colleague Mary Ann McKibben Dana has famously said that the Church is not dying; it’s pregnant. Unfamiliar things are happening. And sometimes we feel like we are going to die.
But we are not dying. We are simply experiencing some serious labor pain. Before any of us had ever heard of COVID-19, there was concern about what the 21st Century Church was becoming. There was pain about technical transitions and other transitions.
A pregnant Church during a pandemic is even scarier.
- Will everybody be used to staying home on Sunday mornings?
- Will we permanently shift Bible studies and meetings to ZOOM calls after noticing that attendance was actually higher when people didn’t have to travel for those gatherings?
- Will our congregations without the capacity for technology permanently shutter their doors?
- Will we stop passing the offering plate after acclimating to online giving?
- Will the trauma after weeks of sickness and death, after not being able to say good-bye properly to retiring pastors or family at their death beds, after missing out on joyous celebrations like graduations, after losing our jobs, after having to shelter in unsafe places be too much to bear?
- Will Church mission and other programming become more trauma-informed?
We don’t know. But I agree with those who say that “this is hard” but it will be even more difficult after the pandemic ends. Yes, there will be joy in the streets. There will be happy group hugs. And then there will be processing all the grief.
And so let us pray for those who are expecting babies in these pandemic days. And let us also pray for the pandemically pregnant Church. There are crucial trends coming.
Greek icon of Mary and her cousin Elizabeth both expecting babies. I love the extra person checking on them from behind the curtain. That person is all of us.
Did Jesus know what would happen the week he entered Jerusalem?
We Christians start the week with palms and then move swiftly through the torture and death of Jesus, and then celebrate resurrection. Boom. Boom. Boom. So much happens so fast.
We’ve been commemorating this last week of Jesus’ life for so long that the whiplash from parade to cross to empty tomb doesn’t jolt us terribly much. We know the end of the story.
We don’t know the end of the Covid-19 story. (As a person of faith, I’m still going with resurrection, but the unknown between now and then can be stressful – faith or no faith.)
And now the Surgeon General – that official person who advises us on the dangers of smoking – has warned us that this could be the deadliest week of our lives:
This is going to be the hardest and the saddest week of most Americans’ lives, quite frankly. This is going to be our Pearl Harbor moment, our 9/11 moment, only it’s not going to be localized. (Source)
So here we go. Holy Week is going to be the deadliest week?
It’s an interesting time to ponder the deadliest week in Jesus’ life as we live through what’s could be the deadliest week in our communal life. I hope we take time to connect the spiritual dots.
I’m trying to imagine how things will be different after scientists create a vaccine for COVID-19 and we can all go back to eating in restaurants and returning to the office. I wonder if we will decide that working from home is viable for a large percentage of workers. I wonder if we will stop shaking hands when we greet each other. I wonder how spiritual practices from Passing the Peace to passing the offering plates will forever be changed in houses of faith.
Our songs will be different.
And yet touch will remain important. I believe The Church will continue to be a community where people are touched – in healthy ways – physically, spiritually, emotionally.
One of my favorite moments in HH’s Sunday worship has been the benediction. The benediction doesn’t get nearly enough attention in seminary, but – if you remember nothing else about the worship service – I hope to be moved by the benediction.
At HH’s church on the Sundays he preaches, he stands at the base of the chancel (i.e. the front of the sanctuary) and he asks people to face the center aisle and “if you are comfortable” touch the shoulder of someone near you. This means that – for a moment – everyone is connected to someone.
As HH speaks the words of the benediction and walks slowly down the aisle, there are always tears in someone’s eyes. It’s moving to see people who may or may not know each other connect. It might be the only time some of those folks will touch another human being all week.
It is beautiful. Except today, it’s not safe or healthy.
One day we might be able to touch each others shoulders again. Maybe we’ll even touch someone’s hand whom we don’t know. One of the opportunities of going through a pandemic together is that life as we’ve known it has changed for every single one of us, and soon and very soon – I pray – we will discern new ways to reach out into the world together.
Image of the great Diana Ross (November 20, 2015 in Las Vegas)
|Note to Patient||The results of your recent tests look fine. We look forward to seeing you at your next appointment.|
I was bracing myself for different news because I haven’t felt well for about a week and COVID-19 is on everyone’s brain. My head and throat hurt. I have a dry cough. My breathing is labored. And the big sign that something’s off: coffee doesn’t taste good. I can barely drink it.
But it’s only allergies. And I am very grateful. And I’m still staying home and washing my hands and cleaning my doorknobs with antiseptic wipes.
In all of our lives at this very moment people we love are dealing with positive test results about everything from COVID-19 to lung cancer to COPD to strep throat. All suffering is suffering. It’s never a competition.
Brene Brown addresses comparative suffering in her new podcast series (which is excellent by the way) and comparing my pollen issues with someone else’s coronavirus is obviously ridiculous in terms of basic misery quotients and mortality issues. Comparative suffering also makes us discount other people’s (and our own) pain.
NOTE: I am simply allergic to things. I’m not going to lie. It’s miserable but it’s also not fatal. I have no desire to compare how terrible my sinus allergies are against your skin allergies – or whatever. If I lost my mother at age 32 and you lost your mother at age 73, both of us are allowed to feel pain. Grief is grief.
Wise words about comparative suffering according to Brene Brown:
What’s crazy about comparison when it’s triggered by fear and scarcity is that even our pain and our hurt are not immune to being assessed and ranked, so without thinking we start to rank our suffering and use it to deny or give ourselves permission to feel. ‘I can’t be disappointed about my college graduation right now. Who am I to be sad that I’m not going to be able to have this great ceremony ’cause people are sick and dying.’
But this is not how emotion or affect work.
When we minimize our feelings, we get shame (and we all know what Brene says about shame.) We are not bad people if we are lonely in these days, even though some people are lonely without a roof over their heads. Empathy is not a zero-sum game.
These are really, really difficult times for everyone. We are all suffering in an array of ways on many levels and with many layers. But our feelings are real and we need to allow our feelings to be felt. Suffering is suffering. Grief is grief. Hurt is hurt.
I’m really thankful that I tested negative for COVID-19 but I still miss human touch. Instead of comparing my misery with yours though, let’s allow each other to express boundless empathy towards each other and ourselves. It’s a good time to be empathy giants all around.
And let’s keep washing our hands.
Image of beautifully dyed pollen samples.
- Church A says they want to reach out beyond the walls of their sanctuary when what they really mean is that they want to attract people who look like them who want to participate in the mission they’re already doing.
- Church B says that they want to be more “diverse” when what they really mean is that they are happy to welcome 1-2 families who don’t look like them as long as they act like them.
- Church C says that they are excited about moving forward into the future but what they really mean is that they want their former pastor to participate in future weddings and funerals and they can’t bear to let the church administrator go even though she doesn’t want to learn new computer skills.
I was reading about an upcoming course at Columbia Theological Seminary yesterday which is being offered because the pastor’s vision conflicts with the congregations (authentic) vision.
Despite rhetoric and confessed beliefs about Gospel mission and mandate, it remains true that congregations are a type of religious community. As such, they operate more like family or tribe despite also being a body organized around a mission. Simply put, congregations, as communities have a tendency to be bounded, focused inward, generative, and focused on self-preservation. None of those are “bad” in and of themselves, but their reality can hint at why it is so difficult for clergy to move a congregation toward an outward-looking, missional ministry orientation. Israel Galindo
Amen and amen.
Every day I talk with congregations who minimize the differences between who they say they are and who they are. And this is what’s placed us where we are today as the institutional Church.
We say we want to be disciples of Jesus Christ and follow the way of Jesus. But actually we want to survive as an institution. We only want to change when we have no choice but we continue to believe we have lots of choices.
Here’s the Good News: Jesus’ Church is thriving at this very moment as we can’t worship in sanctuaries. God is working in the thick of this to remind us that our basic purpose in life is to glorify God and enjoy God forever.
We are still doing this without church buildings and face to face board meetings. Once God came to show us up close and personal what it looks like to be the living Word. And now God is showing us how to be the living Word through an uncontrollable virus.
Many will die and I don’t want to think about that. I want to focus on the resurrection that will happen after both the physical and the institutional deaths. God will always have a Church. Our role – if we are serious about our faith – is to be the Church God created us to be.
“We completely lost sight and touch of what really matters here.” Joshua Dial, Campaign Manager for Joe Exotic in the final episode of Tiger King
I succumbed to watching this Netflix show over the weekend and I truly have no words for what I watched except – in a nutshell – people who love exotic animals became enemies when they lost sight and touch of what really mattered – namely the animals. Their once noble ideas turned into a battle over money and power which is often what happens in our own noble pursuits. (Also there were mullets, bigamy, country songs about tigers, and a one-armed woman who became the voice of reason.)
Organizations are usually created to offer something noble:
- A non-profit that houses homeless veterans.
- A business that builds a better ventilator.
- A foundation that supports young adults after they age out of foster care.
- A school that teaches poor kids how to play musical instruments
- A restaurant that offers Meals on Wheels for people with HIV.
- A church that wants to show their neighborhood what the love of God really looks like.
We are blessed in these pandemic days to hear stories about people offering noble pursuits and it shows the best of who we are. The best looks like this: generosity, selflessness, kindness, patience, creativity.
But if we lose our focus, if we become dazzled by power or personal gain, it all falls apart. It doesn’t take much for a benevolent (and maybe even holy) mission to become all about the wrong thing.
I see churches diminished by this all the time.
- The church that was established in the 1950s to offer Christian nurture to the neighborhood worrying more about their discomfort with demographic changes than their original mission to love all God’s children.
- The church that was once The Big Steeple involved in everything from community mental health initiatives to teaching English as a Second Language focusing instead on that steeple and how badly it needs to be painted.
- The church that started the best preschool in town now more concerned about pleasing the Preschool Director than pleasing God.
Why does an organization you love and support exist? Does it’s current existence reflect why it was formed in the first place? I hope so.
Image of food collection for a neighborhood in Charlotte, NC serving those who’ve lost their employment this month.
Last week I missed a morning ZOOM call (thinking it was in the afternoon.) I also forgot the name of my children and how to put on shoes. (Not really but sort of.)
Word on the street is that our brains are not working as well as they usually work because of the social distancing, unexpected home schooling, Clorox-wielding way of life we are now living. We’ve all heard of:
- New Baby Brain – When was the last time I took a shower?
- Bride/Groom Brain – Of course it’s worth it to pay for white doves to fly into the horizon as we climb into our limo.
- Home All Day with Toddlers Brain – Just lick the apple sauce off the table, Sweetheart.
- Grief Brain – I can’t believe this is happening. This is not happening. Who cares that you can’t find a @#%$-ing parking space? My mother/husband/child/sister is dead. (I have multiple examples of Grief Brain.)
Clearly we are living with Coronavirus Brain – and we don’t even need our own personal diagnosis of COVID 19 to have it.
There are numerous articles out there about our brains during times like these. But the basics are these things: We’ll need to sleep more. We won’t be as productive. Daily beauty will be more essential than ever. Checking in on each other is imperative.
That last one is especially difficult for me because I spend each day checking in with church leaders, committees, cohorts, and colleagues. By the end of the day, I don’t have the energy to talk with more people. I just want to shut down and pull the covers over my eyes. This is okay too.
One of my friends has been sending short prayers in his own buttery voice to several of us and frankly, his voice is everything. He could be reading The History of Straw and it would be soothing.
I’m keeping hot pink flowers in my apartment because I need something bright and alive in here. I have a lavender candle burning. Both are better than Calgon.
I’m still loving my lavender infused wool dryer balls. They’ve changed my life.
And I’m giving my own brain permission to slow down. All of us will be in this situation for a while and so let’s not pass up this once-in-a-lifetime opportunity to let our brains rest a bit. We will come back stronger and more grateful.
- What’s growing in your garden/home right now? My Christmas cactus is confused but aren’t we all.
- What are you cooking/baking? Polina will send you lovely recipes everyday.
- What’s are you reading that’s COVID-free? I liked Colin Jost’s piece on his childhood commute to school. It’s not very long.
- What have your ordered online in the past week? I ordered new Wool Dryer Balls and now all my clothes smell like New Zealand.
Share whatever non-pandemic things are in your life right now. Dog photos especially appreciated. Seriously, we need to hear from you.