Co-Mentoring is The (or at least one) Answer

Do these people scare you? And we need people of color in this picture too. Would that scare you more?

I’ve been called “a seasoned pastor” which means more than the fact that I’m middle aged.  There are lots of middle aged “new” pastors who were called to professional ministry as a second or third career.  Being “seasoned”  – I think – means I’ve done my share of preaching, teaching, breaking up church fights, mediating conflicts, and unplugging stopped up church toilets (both literally and figuratively.)

I was checking out the requirements for being a Field Education Supervisor in a particular seminary yesterday and saw that only “seasoned” pastors could supervise seminarians, and by “seasoned” they meant at least ten years of pastoral experience.  Interesting.

Many of my seasoned friends love the idea of mentoring a “young pastor” and we have a really (really) hard time with unteachable young colleagues.   But – O Seasoned Friends – maybe we are the ones who are unteachable as well.  If we learned to serve churches that no longer exist, we need a mentor under the age of 40.

I often talk lovingly about my former colleagues, and let’s just name names here because they are extraordinary pastoral leaders: Rob and Matt were both in their mid to late 20s when we worked together and I learned amazing things from them.  They mentored me.  No doubt about it.  When Matt would introduce me to friends as his “boss” I would recoil a bit.  Yes, I was his boss in terms of supervision, but we mentored each other every day.  I could share my whole seasoned wisdom thing and he could share technological, cultural, generational, and theological wisdom that can only come from a trusting relationship.

Trust is huge.  Matt and Rob could have given me any kind of constructive criticism and I would have listened.  They listened when I shared the same.

Growing 21st Century churches will thrive only with there is shared leadership and authentic (read it again:  authentic) mentoring between generations.  And it’s really more fun this way.

This post is dedicated to Rob, Matt, Tim, Gretchen, Steph, and Lauren with gratitude.

6 responses to “Co-Mentoring is The (or at least one) Answer

  1. Terry Hamilton-Poore

    I would share all my awesome, awesome wisdom with anyone who can create a decent website for me!


  2. Hmm…10 years, eh? That’s pretty well-seasoned if you ask me, and too stringent. Love this post, Jan, as usual!


  3. There has been a lot of misunderstanding/defensiveness over that post. You ‘get it.’ Thank you for getting it…and that type of mentorship/reciprocal relationship is exactly what many of us (young adults) are desiring.


  4. Pingback: In Praise of Young Clergywomen | achurchforstarvingartists

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