My Fourth Marriage

My colleague JC (Joe not Jesus) told me once that he’s been married multiple times to the same woman.  As life has transitioned, so has the marriage.

With that in mind, HH and I begin our fourth marriage today – to each other.

First Marriage: Three Churches. A Birth. A Death. An Eventful Move.

Second Marriage: Two More Births. Two Miscarriages. Three More Deaths. Co-Pastoring. Not Co-Pastoring. 16 years of Public Schools.  Two Dogs. Lifelong Friends. Soccer Fields. Lacrosse Fields. Field Hockey Fields.

Third Marriage: Empty Nest. Central Time Zone. One Church/92 Churches. That PCUSA Thing. Two Years of Breakfast with Faces.

Fourth Marriage: Downsizing. Freedom. Old Dog. New Adventures.

Life together changes with the years and the seasons.  There are joys and there is brokenness and there is a lot in between.  I love what Brene Brown says about the myth of the 50-50 relationship.  (It’s definitely a myth.)

A lot about marriage involves luck and grace and God and magic and miracles.  We happen to make it to this point for some reason and it doesn’t make us better or smarter.  But the truth is that life often involves multiple marriages – sometimes to the same person.

Old coffee cups. New venue.

5 responses to “My Fourth Marriage

  1. Justin and I have described our marriage similarly. Each of us has changed, and rarely have we changed at the same time the other one was changing. There’s a lot of adjustment required for marriage. Blessings on this new one!

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  2. Welcome to your new home and new marriage and new adventures

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  3. Corey Schlosser-Hall

    Love this Jan – Thanks for bringing a fresh word every day! Cheers, Corey

    On Fri, Apr 24, 2020 at 9:09 AM A Church for Starving Artists wrote:

    > jledmiston posted: “My colleague JC (Joe not Jesus) told me once that he’s > been married multiple times to the same woman. As life has transitioned, > so has the marriage. With that in mind, HH and I begin our fourth marriage > today – to each other. First Marriage: Three ” >

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  4. Bob and I are nearing 64 years together, so think of how many marriages we have had! Ha Ha

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